Well, that’s a huge subject. Here are a couple of thoughts:
- I think that for a very long time, men have been mostly taught that anger is the ONLY acceptable emotion for them; that other emotions are “weak” or “feminine” and that anger is something different. So, I think for many men it’s easier to revert to anger rather than allowing other emotions to surface and be expressed.
- I don’t think we can reduce anyone’s anger to just “them being entitled.” Anger is energy with a message: so what’s the message? That’s what we need to dig into. That’s where the freedom lies. Once we uncover the message, we can figure out if it’s true or not, and what to do about it. I think for many of these “angry white males,” their anger is cover for fear: they see the world/culture changing and aren’t sure they have a place in it anymore.
- I think this message is for men and women. I’m going to do a couple of big generalizations now, so please treat them as such. In general, I think that men have an easier time expressing/voicing anger, and they need to learn to be still with it, take time to hear it rather than direct it outward, and listen to the message it brings: then decide what to do in response to that message. In general, I think women have been trained to repress anger and only exhibit “acceptable” and “nice” emotions, to stifle powerful/uncomfortable emotions in favor of being courteous and polite; so, many women need to learn to let these big powerful uncomfortable emotions (anger, in particularly) have more room, learn to express them, listen to the message they bring and take action — on their own behalf — as needed. Women tend to revert to caretaking for others rather than taking care of ourselves, and anger is often a result: we resent being in last place, but refuse to take responsibility for putting ourselves there. Anger is a tool to help us step out of that position and stand, move, act in our own power.