This is similar to what’s discussed in Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. Maltz proposes that our identity comes with particular labels and limits, and to achieve our dreams/goals would, in many cases, destroy our self-formed identity. We can’t live with that kind of internal dissonance, so we self-sabotage to avoid a “success” that would damage our idea of self. Or as you put it, we avoid a gain that would create a loss we can’t accept.

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