The 3 Most Important Secrets of Parenting

What 4 kids and 14 years of parenting have revealed.

Toys will never be this neatly arranged. | Photo by Vanessa Bucceri on Unsplash

But here’s the thing: childhood is short. You don’t have time to get good at parenting. You just have to do it.

You never feel qualified as a parent.

Your child changes and you — the parent — must change how you parent, too. If you don’t, you end up parenting your 12-year-old like a 2-year-old, and it won’t work well.

Consistency is your most powerful tool.

The thing about trends is that they are loud and seem important. The feeling that comes from parenting trends is nothing but FOMO.

Consistency is difficult, but here’s what I can promise you: it gets easier, and it’s worth the effort.

Be consistent with routines.

Be consistent with your words.

Your children will learn that they can trust your word, and this will make every phase of parenting easier.

Be consistent with your acceptance.

Your child is definitely going to act like an asshole sometimes.

Don’t expect your child to “get it” (whatever it is) and live in some perpetual state of goodness and joy. Nobody is like that. Why do we ask our kids to be like that?

Love covers so many mistakes.

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

It’s not about the love of a deity for me. It’s not about my love for my children. It’s about their love for me.

Life is an experiment | All this and more: |☠️ Sweary☠️

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