Rage against the avoidance
Trade-offs are necessary but avoidance is trading everything for nothing.
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“A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.”
— Saul Bellow
Avoidance is a way of death, of growing smaller and smaller, shrinking and shrinking until you force your whole being to crouch down and curl up and fit inside the little shell of identity that your fears have built. And that’s where you have to live now, that’s your home, that’s your whole world actually.
And you stay there and you’re compressed and confused and uncomfortable. But you feel safer and more in control so you’re not willing to leave because avoiding something like pain or discomfort or rejection or whatever has become the most important thing to you.
So you endure the lack of growth and the compression and the smallness and the stillness and the stagnation and being crammed into something that doesn’t fit and doesn’t change. You pretend you like it. But you have all this secret rage against it, all this anger, because nobody wants to be limited like that, not really. Because the human drive and need for…
