I’ve been helped by so many people in my life. I think there’s a very big difference between (1) offering help to others when it’s needed, and (2) living out of obligation and guilt, suppressing your own needs and gifts in order to let others use your strength/abilities for their comfort. That second option is what I was trying to articulate here. I’m sure I could have done a better job at it, to make that difference clear.
I also disagree with your statement: strength that is mine, used to help myself, (not to help others) is not the strength of a bully. It is the strength of taking responsibility for myself. Misused strength, strength used to attack, hurt, and control others, is the strength of a bully.
Thanks for commenting.